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Uh-oh [May. 10th, 2011|03:30 pm]
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Someone recently was complaining about the variations and turns of phrase that come out to mean ‘I know you better than you know yourself’. Apologies, I can’t remember which of you it was.

I’m just here to say, though, that it turns out that science supports that statement, in some senses. See http://www.scientificamerican.com/podcast/episode.cfm?id=know-thyself-11-05-07 . The truth is that we as people are most likely to develop blind spots about ourselves, and have the ability to be more objective about others. So -objectively- others may know more about us than we do ourselves. Emotionally, we still probably know more about ourselves, but we may not be admitting it to ourselves.

Welcome to this crazy tribal society we live in.

Mirrored from The Black Horse of the Blog World.

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[User Picture]From: benndragon
2011-05-10 10:36 pm (UTC)
Well yes, that's part of why we hire therapists, to be professionally objective in just such a fashion.

But for the love of little green fishes, people who aren't a therapist or even a trusted confidant, who offer up such observations without being asked? They are absolutely worthy of complaint when they pull that crap, regardless of whether they are right or not (hell, being right is possibly worse!). Too often they're doing it as a form of taking advantage of those blind-spots, for social gain.
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[User Picture]From: witticaster
2011-05-11 12:58 am (UTC)
Ditto to the above. I complained about something similar recently, but will happily say that I notice things about people that they don't and I assume the reverse is true as well. My complaint was that telling someone they are and have been wrong about some basic part of their personality is not a compliment or a good thing, and that on certain subjects people are more likely to assume they know better even when they have little basis.
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